My friend told me this lovely bit of marriage advice (which I will probably slaughter . . . creative license is needed here), which I passed on to Phoebe when we were talking about how her darling boyfriend is finally catching on to the hints she's been dropping about what a real date is and how he should treat her (he does treat her very very well . . . she's just fine tuning it): My friend's friend's (yes, one of THOSE stories), sat her daughter down before her wedding and said, "Look at your father. He's pretty much perfect isn't he? He takes such good care of us. He mows the lawn, he takes out the trash, he buys us what we want, and is there for us when ever we need him." The daughter nodded her head and said, "Yes, Dad is pretty amazing." The mother said, "Yes, he is. That took 25 years of training. Don't expect your husband to be like your father over night. Give him time. He'll get there." When I heard ...